Thursday, April 22, 2010

Ugh, the Label of Soccer Mom

When my kids started playing soccer about 4 years ago, I never wanted to be referred to as a "soccer mom". Nope, not me, not interested. I just didn't like the label. It seemed so limiting. Until recently.

You see I have been carrying around an extra 120 pound weight on my shoulders since Tuesday night. Tuesday was a lovely spring night to be outside watching soccer. Mr. F, my 11 year old son, had a game in Nearby Town. There was a lot of excitement surrounding the game; could we win without 6 of our players? All of the parents had memories of the last time we played Nearby Town~and they weren't pleasant memories. We assembled along the sidelines with nervousness buzzing in the air.  From the very start it was evident that these two teams were well-matched. It was exciting to watch! We cheered those boys on with, "Nice teamwork", "Hooya", "Keep up the good work, Purple" Very positive good stuff for adolescent boys to hear. And this is where it gets ugly (and the 120 pound weight starts settling on my shoulders).  The game ends & my son tells me, "Mom, their coach (Nearby Town coach) said something to me. He told me, "Hey goalie, maybe next time you will get the ball". " That's right the opposing coach mocked my goalie son, during a game, after he missed a penalty goal. I know what you are thinking, "That is so rude!".  I did something even more rude and I brushed off my son. I was caught up in the post-game emotion and I didn't want to confront what he had told me. Instead, I gathered my stuff & headed  to a post game snack with my family.

Later that evening my son's words started to settle on me. In my mind, I started to confront the coach's actions & words to my son. I thought about my competitive experiences and I realized that this was completely unacceptable behavior of a coach.

Now let me tell a bit about this team. They have been together for almost 4 years. Players have come & gone. The core team has stuck together. Off the field, you would never even  know that these boys are competitive. They are truly nice young men. They are sweet and kind. I am often greeted with hugs & smiles and many enthusiastic "Hi Mrs M!" s (ok, some of them do call me mom, too). Not exactly the type that would be ruthless on the soccer field.  They are the kind of kids that play fair.  

I am not much of a complainer (except to my husband, my Mom & my very close friends, cause a girl has to vent once in awhile). As I thought about those words of the Nearby Town coach, I realized that I should file a complaint. Do you know why? Because my son deserves better than being mocked and so does every child that competes against that Nearby Town team. 

As I was saying goodnight to my son last night, we had a little chat about the incident. He was still a bit mad. He said, "Mom, I took that negative energy and turned it into power!" Oh yes, he certainly did. Nearby Town  team had many goal attempts. It was almost dizzying. Mr. F. blocked every goal attempt from that comment on, with a lot help from his friends. Teamwork. Perserverance. Fair play. We won 4-2.

I am proud of the "boys". I am proud of our coach (who was verbally abused throughout the game by Nearby Town coach). I am proud of our parents for staying positive in an unwelcoming place. I am proud of my son. I am proud of myself for following through with the complaint.

So take that negative energy, you have been turned into power!

The weight has been lifted. 

Now you can call me soccer mom. I've earned it.

Mr. F is quite a good dancer! 

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Wednesday, April 21, 2010

My First Giveaway

I have a million projects (ok, 7, really!) underway right now but I wanted to take a minute & let you know about my first giveaway!! I am so excited! The winner will be chosen by Miss Boo (my 7 year old dumplin) on Saturday morning @ 10:00 est! This is what was sitting on my counter (just out of sight) from this post, (moved them to the front porch for more of a beach feel!)

You can choose either blue (my favorite) or deep pinkish red (let's call it rubine) or this creamy yellow. It is already pre-loaded with a citronella candle for outdoor use! Wouldn't this make a super hostess gift for a cookout? Or for your sister or mother or mother-in-law for Mother's Day? Or a sweet friend? Wouldn't it look lovely on a porch or a dock or poolside?

The (Easy) Rules
Tell me which color (of the 3 above) you like best & make sure that I can get a hold of you via your blog or an email address. (Questions? My email has been added under my profile):
  • You get one throw in the hat for a comment
  • One throw in the hat for being a follower
  • One throw in the hat for listing my blog on your blog roll
  • One throw in the hat for mentioning my blog checkitoff in a blogpost.
  • One throw in a hat for telling a friend to come visit my blog (tell friend to post your name in their comment). 
This will be very official~I promise!

If I get more than 25 comments I will give 2 away, if I get more than 50 comments I will give 3 get the picture! * at least 5 chances to win*~how are you liking those odds?

Also, it looks like you can change the candle to make it an indoor candle, too.  How nifty! I am so excited for summer this year! How about you?

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

A Surprise on the Counter

I was pleasantly surprised to see these on my counter in one of my favorite vintage milk bottles. (Don't they make the best vases?) I think they were from sweet daughter #2 with a little help from my #1 (~and only~)  hubby.  Flowers make me happy. Especially fresh cut flowers. Especially from my own garden! Especially as a surprise gift!

I love to use jelly jars to hold pens & other necessities that are needed immediately at the counter for homework! 

 The dry erase ceramic "board" was found at Goodwill for $2:

The quote was borrowed from this blog. I love it! I also write what the evening activities are, although it isn't fitting well these days! & stuff like "practice piano~5 days till recital! Love, Mom"

These are coral pieces from our trip earlier in the month. The ring (isn't it great & big??) was a find by my daughter on the soccer field! 

I have a little something hiding out of view on my counter. Check back later this week as I will be giving it away to one lucky winner! It is something for outdoors & very "summery"! 

What's on your kitchen counters these days?

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Florida Keys Beach Tour

Florida has so many beautiful beaches! I am drawn to the Keys. The biggest pull is the color of the water! It is absolutely gorgeous! This is what my camera captured & none of these have been photoshopped for color! Enjoy!

The first 5 photos were taken at Bahia Honda State Park(south of Marathon FL):

This is my favorite posed photo~Key West~look at that water! I think Miss Boo agrees!

Our best family photo~I was adamant about getting a photo of the 5 of us! Glad you can't see the sand in our hair & on our faces! {Key West}

My gang throwing the football on the beach. I want my girls to know how to throw a football on the beach. This will be really important in future years*I may come to regret this* as boys ask my girls to throw the ball with them* but for now it is nice they get to play with their Dad & brother & I get to take photos! {Key West, just outside the cutest Italian restaurant on a beach where you can sip drinks & look at the beach & ocean & then throw the football}

Skimboarding , Sombrero Beach, Marathon FL

Girls @ Sombrero Beach {Mr. F is over Miss Boo's shoulder, cool, eh?}
Hope you enjoyed my Florida Keys beach tour!